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It's no surprise to me that Katie Price revealed on Loose Women she and Peter Andre should’ve got back together ages ago. She blamed “outside influences” for holding them back from sorting things out.
Why no surprise? Because relationship research shows a whopping 90% of couples have a second go. Yep, it might be one drunken fumble when they’re both lonely. Or the whole shebang - moving back in together with high hopes.
Whichever way, if you two hit the sack, you might as well go out with a bang (literally). Or rekindle your relationship with red hot sex.
Here are six rules to follow:
1. Go for gold
You two have been-there-and-done-that - been together, broken up. So sex should be no-holds-barred fun. No room for shyness or inhibitions.
This is about getting down and dirty. Go for it, drop body shyness or embarrassment and have just romp.
2. No strings-flying
Harbour a secret desire to get back with your ex or not, make this no-strings sex. If you go in it trying to show what they’re missing, you might get hurt.
Instead make it all about being no-strings fun. You never know, having red-hot sex might end up making them realise what they’re missing. But don’t count on it.
Learnt a trick or two since you broke up? Show them your skills at, e.g., handcuffing them, drizzle massage oil down their body, then tease them with a vibrator.
3. Sexperiment
You’ve got nothing to lose. So take this opportunity and try something you’ve always wanted to do – maybe a crazy position, exciting role-play, or anal sex.
For role-play, suggest you’re strangers who get seated next to each other on a plane. Describe slipping your hand under the courtesy blanket and teasing their intimate zones. Then how you’d join the mile high club and have your way with them.
Or if it’s about anal, be ready with condoms and lots of lubricants. Coax them slowly into trying it with you.
4. Yes to sloppy seconds
It’s your second time around, hoping it’ll work out. Or maybe you just want comfort sex with someone you know, to release sexual tension.
Whatever take full advantage. Rev-up for sloppy seconds by showering after your first session.
Wash each other all over with lashings of shower gel. Have a waterproof sex toy handy to get playful with should lead to a second time around, at least in bed.
There were many nights lying in bed wondering if you should rekindle things. You might’ve fantasised about the great sex you once had. Well, give it to them straight. Tell them all the juicy details of the fantasies you had. You’ve got nothing to lose.
So, for instance, if you fantasised about showing up at theirs, dressed only in sexy bra and panties underneath your coat – tell them.
6. Ban break-up talk in the bedroom
You’ve had some crazy sex together. You realise you still push each other’s buttons. But this isn’t the time to raise the issues that break you up. Instead enjoy the moment.
Then if it seems you share more than good sex, start talking - outside of the bedroom - about what went wrong and how you both could make things better.
Dr Pam’s Position:
Many couples confide they never agreed on positions – one loved Doggy style, the other classic Missionary. This is your opportunity to satisfy both your needs. Agree to start in one position and gently morph into the other at some point.
See you can compromise after all! Maybe a starting point for properly going back together.
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