MANY couples feel their sex life flagging after the festive season left them feeling tired, stressed, broke and overweight.
But the three here have made a New Year vow to relight their fires in January by making love every day.
DIANA APPLEYARD hears how they got it on, or not, during week one.
‘It’s passionate and wild and we both orgasm loudly before each collapsing in a heap’
HOUSEWIFE Heather Banks and her builder husband Wayne, both 39, have sons of six and four in Shepton Mallet, Somerset. Their busy life had seen them having sex weekly, if that. Here’s Heather’s take on their sexy 2016:
JAN 1: Both hung over, and I’m depressed about us both turning 40 this year and the fact I put on half a stone over Christmas. Wayne snuggles up to me to remind me of our pledge but I push him away. I feel fat and tired. But then I take a deep breath and pop open the top button of my nightie. That’s all Wayne needs and, as he buries his head in my breasts, I feel turned on. The act doesn’t last long but we feel much closer and later sleep in each other’s arms.
JAN 2: We are back on form, recovered from New Year. The kids are asleep by 8pm and, after a couple of glasses of wine, I go upstairs to get all dolled up, in sexy lingerie and full make-up. Wayne pulls out the sofa bed in the living room and, when I return, he is lying naked but for a giant foam finger protecting his modesty. I stifle a giggle then jump on him. There is not a lot of foreplay but it’s passionate and wild and we both orgasm loudly then each collapse in a satisfied heap.
JAN 3: Wayne makes dinner and I ask him to wear nothing but the apron. He’s got a great bum and treats me to a sexy dance. This time we focus on foreplay more. When we first got together, eight years ago, I impressed Wayne with my oral skills. Sadly, they got rusty. But tonight I’ve still got it. I pull tricks out of the bag from my student days, he’s groaning in ecstasy and I love the fact I can still turn him on. I pretend to be a porn star and my confidence grows. We have our best sex yet.
JAN 4: I am just not feeling it tonight. The kids go back to school tomorrow and, despite Wayne trying his hardest, I can’t stop my mind wandering. “Are the lunchboxes done? Did I set the alarm? Are the PE kits washed?” Wayne notices I’m distracted and it is made worse for both of us by the fact we’re trying to cut down on booze this month. We feel awkward. Eventually we have sex but it is an effort.
JAN 5: To get in the mood, we discuss other people who turn us on. Top for me is David Beckham, while Wayne astonishes me by saying he fancies Miranda Hart’s screen mum on her TV show. We also discuss fetishes that turn us on. We haven’t spoken like this for ages. The sex is great, fuelled by our fantasies.
JAN 6:Once Wayne’s on top of me and we really get going, I start talking dirty and it gets him even more aroused. I say things I’m going to do to him and what I want him to do to me. We both orgasm – then eat chocolate. Perfect.
JAN 7: Wayne comes home for lunch today, the kids are at school and . . . bingo! This week has put flirtation back in our marriage and I was sending him sexy texts all morning, teasing him about what I was going to do for him when he came home – and it did not involve shepherd’s pie. I even sent him pictures of sex toys I have ordered online. This is going to be quite a year.
— SHE SAYS: This has brought back the fun. We’ll definitely keep this up.
— HE SAYS: We’re back on track. But Heather is so kinky, I never know what she’ll suggest next. I’m excited but scared. I’ll just have to man up.
‘I had forgotten how lovely morning sex is’
DANCER Sara Parker, 22 and her roofer husband Daniel, 23, live in Romford, Essex, with their five-year-old daughter. Their sex life had been dwindling due to tiredness and they were bickering. Here’s Sara’s 2016 so far:
JAN 1: We slump on the sofa in the evening, tired from the New Year celebrations. But Daniel turns to me and says: “Remember the resolution!” That makes me laugh then we start kissing. Soon we are taking our clothes off, before moving up to the bedroom – and having a fantastic hour’s sex. What a good start.
JAN 2: Our daughter stayed at my mum’s last night so we are home alone. We wake and Daniel puts his arms around me, in a state of arousal. We haven’t had morning sex for ages. I’d forgotten how lovely it is. We can really take our time because neither of us is working and we have lots of foreplay, which is lovely. For the rest of the day we have big smiles on our faces.
JAN 3: We get home late from work tired and make dinner but avoid eye contact because sex feels like a chore. But we sit up watching TV then Daniel puts an arm round me. That simple act lightens the mood and it feels natural to start making love. We lie in each other’s arms and chat. We feel lovely and close.
JAN 4: Early-morning sex again. Making this the first thing you do in the day makes such a difference but it does make us both late out of bed. Our daughter is due back today so we make the most of our freedom – normally it’s impossible to have morning sex with a young child in the house, as you have to be out of bed early. Afterwards we have the most open talk about sex that we have had for ages.
JAN 5: We sit up watching TV until 1am. By that time I am sleepy and relaxed and, when we go to bed, we have gentle sex. We are both finding it helps us sleep and Daniel says it improves his mood when he wakes. He feels proud of himself and more secure in our relationship.
JAN 6: We are moving house tomorrow so tonight we have a house party with friends and get to bed late. Sex is drunken and we laugh a lot. Not our best performance but we manage it. I tell Daniel we’ve blessed the house with our last act of sex here.
JAN 7: Moving out today, so we snatch a bit of very early-morning delight. I am distracted by things we have to do today so sex is rushed. But it is still great and we agree daily sex seems to give us more energy.
— SARA SAYS: We’ve reconnected and I feel much more valued and appreciated as a woman. It’s easy to get into a habit of not having sex, then you start sniping at each other.
— DANIEL SAYS: My favourite is the early-morning sex. I bounce out of bed with a smile. During the day I get lovely flashbacks and look forward to seeing Sara later. I am up for sex every day from now on, if Sara is.
‘I put on stockings and pink knickers as a surprise’
PARTY organiser Juel Stokes, 48, and her music producer husband Jerome, 49, of Brondesbury Park, North West London, have been together for eight years and have no kids. Sex had fizzled to a few times a month, Juel admitting she fusses over housework more than her fella. Here is her report:
JAN 1: On New Year’s Eve we crashed at 10pm. But Jerome is American so drags me out of bed at 5am to celebrate New Year via satellite from New York, and after that we go back to bed. Spurred on by our resolution, we begin to make love. It is wonderful. I feel so happy and relaxed afterwards and didn’t worry about my saggy bits once. Usually to feel ready for sex I think I have to look my best – a bath, hair washed and styled, make-up and pretty underwear. But Jerome loves me as I am.
JAN 2: I wake up really horny, which I haven’t for ages. I made a vow to myself to be more sexy for Jerome and not spend time at home in a scruffy bathrobe, wielding a hoover. So while he is out I put on stockings and pretty pink underwear. He loves pink knickers. When he gets back I surprise him – and we make love in the living room for the first time in years.
JAN 3: We go to bed early and snuggle into each other’s arms. I initiate a chat about sex. I am more adventurous about wanting to try new sex positions, while Jerome is quite traditional. He’s probably more ready for sex than I am. But once I am in the mood, I am really up for it. I don’t want to shock him or turn him off, though. We talk very openly about what we want and then make love – with the sex spiced up by our conversation.
JAN 4: We are exhausted after Christmas and New Year and, after doing some housework, flop on to the sofa. We cuddle and kiss. We don’t have full sex, as we are tired. But we gaze into each other’s eyes and I give Jerome a back massage. Just touching each other is nearly as good as sex.
JAN 5: When Jerome gets home from work I’ve been thinking about sex all day and feel very horny. But I practically have to jump on him to get him in the mood. I say we can’t let the resolution slip, as we already had a day off. With a sigh, he takes me in his arms and we go to bed. Once we get going, it is fantastic.
JAN 6: Having more sex is having a marked effect. When Jerome talks to me he really looks into my eyes and we touch each other a lot more and laugh at silly jokes. He’s late back from work tonight, too tired for sex and falls into bed and to sleep. I lie awake frustrated and think how work gets in the way of sex. When we’re on holiday our sex life goes through the roof.
JAN 7: Jerome is out all morning and I am working from home, so plan the stockings and underwear trick again. I open the door to Jerome in a pretty dressing-gown, with sexy underwear underneath. It works so well we have sex twice. We haven’t done that for years.
— JUEL SAYS: We are going to keep this up. You have to keep the fire burning and this has definitely rekindled our spark.
— JEROME SAYS: It has been fantastic. I feel like a kid again and it’s lovely to see Juel so happy. I realise she does want me – she was just tired and maybe a bit shy about her body.
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